A 4-WEEK LIVEÂ IMMERSIONÂ
Attachment & Sexuality
Understanding How Attachment Patterns Shape Your Sexual Self
- A 4-Week JourneyÂ
- Starting Wed Jan 28, 2026
- Five Live SessionsÂ
- Wednesdays 5:30-7:30pm CET
LIMITED SEATS!
Apply nowDo any of these sound like you?
- Intimacy feels terrifying even when you want it – your body freezes or disconnects when things get close
- Pleasure is elusive – like you're watching your body from outside instead of feeling what's happening
- You can be vulnerable everywhere else in life, except here – this one domain stays frozen
- You know why you struggle, but not how to shift it – you've read the books, done therapy, but sexuality remains stuck
- Secure relationships somehow lose passion – and you don't understand why safety kills desire
- Sexual rejection feels like abandonment – the intensity of hurt doesn't match the situation
You're Not Broken. You're Just Still Running Old Programs.
Here's what most people don't realize: Your attachment blueprint doesn't stop at the bedroom door.
The way you learned to seek (or avoid) closeness as a child? That same blueprint shows up most clearly in sexual intimacy. Because sex requires everything that originally created attachment wounds:
- Profound vulnerability
- Physical closeness
- Risk of rejection
- Being truly seen
- Showing your needs
Most people address attachment patterns in communication, conflict, emotional expression. But sexuality? That domain stays untouched. And it's often where we're most defended, most frozen, most hungry for change.
You've done the work on relationships. You understand your patterns. But when it comes to sexuality, something remains disconnected. Or simply... missing.
INTRODUCING
The Attachment & Sexuality Immersion
The 4-week deep dive that connects the dots between your attachment patterns and your sexual life.
This isn't traditional sex therapy (techniques, communication, dysfunction). This is attachment work—going underneath to where your nervous system learned about safety, vulnerability, and connection in your earliest years.
Why this works differently:
Your body learned about closeness before you could talk. Is touch safe? Do my needs matter? Can I show vulnerability without getting hurt? These lessons live in your nervous system, not your thinking mind. And they activate most powerfully during sex.
We're drawing from:
- Attachment neuroscience (Bowlby, Ainsworth, Mikulincer & Shaver)
- Polyvagal theory (how your nervous system detects safety)
- Differentiation work (Schnarch's insights on maintaining self while connected)
- Somatic psychology (the body's memory)
- 25+ years of clinical practice
Perfect for: Adults who know their attachment style but sexuality remains stuck. Whether you're single, dating, partnered, or exploring—this is about YOUR patterns, YOUR capacity, YOUR relationship with embodied intimacy.
How It Works Â
During these 4 weeks, think of the immersion as your attachment-sexuality healing ecosystem - four interconnected experiences that work together to create lasting transformation.
You'll never be learning alone or just absorbing information. Instead, you're part of a carefully designed journey where live teaching meets embodied practice, expert guidance meets peer support, and personal insights get integrated through real-time reflection.
Everything Included
Live Experience:
- Four 2-hour sessions on Wednesdays (5:30-7:30pm CET)
- Bonus Integration Session on Feb 18th.
- Teaching, somatic practices, breakout explorations, Q&A
Between Sessions:
- Reflection prompts and self-mapping exercises
- Private group forum for support
- Optional peer discussion circles
Materials:
- Complete session recordingsÂ
- Comprehensive workbook with frameworks and practices
- Research library on attachment and sexuality
- Lifetime access to core materials
After the Immersion:
- Invitation to join our Community
- Continued community forum access
- Alumni pricing for future SBL programs
What Makes This Different
Unlike other programs:
✓ We go to the root, not the symptom. Traditional sex therapy addresses techniques and dysfunction. We work with your nervous system and early attachment patterns—where the real patterns formed.
âś“ Small, intimate container. Maximum 25 participants so there's room for real vulnerability and deep work. You're not lost in a crowd.
âś“ No explicit disclosure required. We work with patterns and principles, not personal details. Share only what feels right for you.
âś“ Research-backed AND embodied. Clinical frameworks meet somatic practices. Theory AND lived experience.
✓ For all relationship structures. Single, dating, partnered, exploring, LGBTQ+, non-monogamous, asexual—all expressions of sexuality and relationship welcome.
What participants in previous programs are saying
”I am really floored by how much this program did for me, in terms of finding my center and addressing some of the core issues that kept me in a state of anxiety in relationship. And just learning how to live, you know, how to live together while learning to live with myself, has just been spectacular. I don't think I really understood how much of an impact 12 weeks of online work could have on my day-to-day life.”
JORNÂ VETTER
WILDERNESS GUIDE
”We have gained some incredibly powerful tools and a shared framework to heal past relational traumas within our current relationship. Our individual and collective growth has been on a fast track, allowing us to meet each other with more presence, trust and vulnerability than we ever thought possible — and we would highly recommend any couple to take this deep dive into building a safe, secure, and compassionate way of relating.”
ANJA & MATTHIAS
NATUROPATH &Â CONSULTANT
"Learning about attachment and authenticity has been eye-opening. I realized I'd never truly let myself be ME.
As I slowly started to drop the mask, I ran into fear and rejection. It was so easy to slip back into old patterns that didn't support me. But having a 12-week Secure Base - a safe space and support - it felt like finally being able to breathe!
Now my actions come from authenticity, even when it's uncomfortable. My responses are slower but grounded - and I'm really grateful I started this journey. It's been messy, real, and so worth it."
SEEMA
"The Secure Attachment Experience helped shine a light on the role my early developmental years have played in the formation of inner and outer relational patterns. The training has been a launchpad for me to reconnect with what brings my life deep meaning, and I am honored to be and feel a part of the generous Secure Base Lab community."
JO HOPKINS
CHEF &Â ENTREPRENEUR
"The 12-week experince was a much needed deep dive in my relational blueprint. Apart from the solid content, for me all the sharing practices revealed and rewired my inner landscapes. I think, feel, behave and relate differently now and it’s life changing."
HENK PETTER
PSYCHOLOGIST
Join The Attachment & Sexuality Immersion
We want to warmly welcome you to this deep dive into attachment & sexuality.Â
Reserve Your Spot
1 Payment of €199PROGRAM OVERVIEW
What You'll Gain in 4 WeeksÂ
Each week contains a carefully designed theme, two live sessions and a workbook that each build on each other. Together we journey through all facets of the science and lived experience of attachment healing.Â
WEEKÂ 1
Your Sexual Attachment Blueprint
January 28, 2026
Understand how your nervous system learned about closeness before you had words—and why sex activates the attachment system so powerfully.
You'll discover:
- How attachment patterns form in the nervous system before language
- Your pattern: anxious, avoidant, or secure
- Where shame and disconnection learned to live in your body
- How to map your nervous system's responses to closeness
WEEKÂ 2
The Body Remembers Before You Know
February 4, 2026
Those brilliant childhood strategies that kept you safe? They're still running. Learn to recognize when you're operating on old programming.
You'll explore:
- How adaptive childhood responses become adult sexual patterns
- Why secure attachment doesn't automatically create sexual satisfaction
- Staying in your body during intimacy instead of disappearing
- Working with dissociation and the impulse to leave
MODULEÂ 3
The Security-Desire Paradox
February 11, 2026
The same closeness that creates security can diminish desire. Sexual aliveness requires both connection AND autonomy.
You'll understand:
- The differentiation paradox: maintaining self while staying connected
- Why some secure relationships lose passion (and how to keep both)
- The difference between secure attachment and emotional fusion
- How to set boundaries that maintain connection, not create walls
WEEK 4
Integration & Secure Sexual Expression
February 18, 2026
You're not here to fix dysfunction. You're here to build capacity for intimacy that didn't exist before.
You'll learn:
- Recognizing when you're running old programs vs. responding to the present
- Expressing needs, desires, boundaries without shame
- Creating safety for vulnerability in yourself and with partners
- Aligning your sexual life with your actual values
WEEKÂ 5 - BONUS SESSION!
Community ReflectionÂ
February 25, 2026
Open forum for questions, clarifications, celebrating growth, and planning ongoing integration beyond the immersion.
Your Invitation
Of all the places attachment shows up—work, friendship, parenting, spirituality—sexuality sits at the deepest intersection.
It's where intimacy meets vulnerability.
Where desire meets shame.
Where body meets psyche.
Where past wounds meet present longing.
Four weeks. Five sessions. The blueprint that's been running your intimate life—made conscious, made workable, made yours.
If you're feeling that familiar mix of "yes, I need this" and "I'm terrified"—pay attention to that.
The tension isn't a stop sign. It's a compass.
Fear points toward what matters most. Yearning shows you where healing wants to happen.
Your attachment patterns aren't character flaws. They're brilliant adaptations that once kept you safe. The work isn't eliminating them—it's updating them so they serve the intimate connection you're capable of now.
P.S. – Notice what happens in your body when you imagine this domain—sexuality—not being frozen anymore. That answer is your invitation.
Meet Our Facilitators
Martin Jonsson
Clinical psychologist and founder of The Secure Base Lab, with a deep passion for attachment healing and community building. Lives on the countryside with his partner and their 2 children.Â
Tom Lidström
Meditation teacher and attachment focused therapist with a background in business and intentional community leadership.Â
Ivan Raphael
Somatic therapist with a focus on trauma healing and embodiment of secure attachment dynamics.
About The Secure Base Lab
The Wisdom and Science of Secure Relating.
We are a passionate collective of psychologists, therapists, researchers and committed people on the path, just like you. We're aiming to be the leading community and "attachment ecosystem" centered around attachment work and relationship healing.
Our programs and community welcomes individuals from all corners of the world and walks of life to embark on the journey toward secure attachment, fostering genuine and enriching connections for overall well-being and secure relating.
We value the profound wisdom and scientific insights derived from deep relationships, understanding that the most impactful wisdom arises from those who have undergone the attachment healing journey themselves or supported others in this transformative process.
Expert-Led, Experience-Driven. Our approach combines cutting-edge research with real-world wisdom. Supported by renowned psychologists, therapists, and attachment specialists, we offer a scientifically-grounded ecosystem where professional expertise meets authentic human experience.
Proven Framework, Real Results. We've curated insights from thousands of individuals who've successfully navigated their attachment journey. Our members come from all walks of life, united by their commitment to genuine transformation and secure relating.
Beyond Surface-Level Solutions. This is deep work. We're here to support you through the complexities of attachment healing and the profound questions of meaning that arise when you truly commit to change. When you're ready for real transformation backed by expertise, we are here for you.
Welcome to a community where science meets heart, and where your journey is guided by passionate professionals.Â
How do we support your integration after the Immersion?
The Secure Base Lab Community
After completing the immersion, you're invited join our ongoing community where you can deepen and expand what you have learned. Our community is an invitation to a secure base—a safe place to return to as you continue practicing secure relating in all areas of your life.Â
Weekly Events
Community Sessions: Continue learning, share and witness each other’s journeys—gently guided by monthly themes that support deep healing.
Ongoing CARE-Groups:Â Continue your journey in small groups focused on your current area of growth.
Peer Support
 Community forum: Connect with friends in the community, ask questions, and share experiences in our online forum.
Cohort Integration: Meet with your original cohort to reconnect and integrate on a deeper level together.Â
Monthly WorkshopsÂ
Self-Regulation: Learn specific ways to use mindfulness, breath work, imagination, and somatic tools to anchor secure traits in the body and mind.
Attachment Clinics: Bring your personal attachment challenges and receive 1:1 support from us.Â
Frequently Asked Questions
Do I need to be in a relationshop to benefit?
What if I have unprocessed sexual trauma?
Will I have to share personal sexual details?
What if I can´t attend all sessions live?
Is this only for people with insecure attachment?
What if I'm LGBTQ+ / non-monogamous / asexual?
What if I'm too ashamed to do this work?
I'm a therapist—will this help my work with clients?
What happens after the Immersion? Is there a community?
I'm new to attachment work. Will I be able to keep up?
The Cost of Not Making This Change
Imagine continuing with sexuality as the frozen domain.
The one place where you can't bring the awareness you've cultivated everywhere else. Where old patterns keep running and you don't know how to update them. Where shame lives and connection stays out of reach.
You can do relationship work for years and still find this domain stuck. Not because you're broken. Because you haven't yet given it the focused, compassionate attention it needs.
What would be different if sexuality wasn't frozen anymore?
What would open if you could bring the same awareness here that you've brought to other relationships? If this part of you wasn't defended? If pleasure was something you could actually feel?
“Being authentic about our deepest needs and boundaries allows us to deepen intimacy and autonomy in ways that enrich both our lives and the lives of those we love.”
MARTIN JONSSON
FOUNDER OF THE SECURE BASE LAB
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