The Secure Attachment Experience

To rewire our attachment patterns can truly be considered a transformational process.

After having done the journey together with 100's of people we know that profound deep changes can occur in an intensive experience like The Secure Attachment Experience.

We want to remind you that this is very personal and dependent on factors like: severity of attachment trauma, level of commitment to healing, personal resources like emotional regulation capacity, self-awareness and openness for vulnerability. Since your own efforts are crucial to the attachment repair process, we cannot guarantee lasting changes.

What you WILL get is all the tools and practices to set you off in the direction of secure attachment. And the science is clear: yes, attachment patterns can change. You are in good company with psychologists, therapists, researchers and most of all, committed people like you!

Our program is guided by decades of peer-reviewed research and designed in consultation with our Advisory Board of attachment specialists.

What you can expect in 12 weeks:

• Increased attachment awareness and emotional regulation skills
• Tools for creating corrective emotional experiences
• The beginning of neural pathway rewiring (neuroplasticity continues long after the program)
• A secure community to support your ongoing growth

Your transformation continues beyond the program with our ongoing community support.

The 12-Week Secure Attachment Experience requires approximately 4-5 hours per week:

• Live Sessions: 3.5 hours total (Wednesday 5:30-7:30 PM CET + Sunday 10:30-12:00 AM CET)
• Integration Practice: 30-60 minutes of personal reflection/workbook between sessions
• CARE Group Partnerships: 30 minutes weekly buddy check-ins (optional, starts Week 2)

• Self-Regulation Workshops: 10-15 minutes daily (recommended but of course optional)
• Community Engagement: 30 minutes in our online community (optional)

Can't make it live? All sessions are recorded with asynchronous community participation. We've designed this for those who value deep transformation alongside existing commitments.

Participation and growth: We absolutely honor your need for flexibility—life happens, and we've designed multiple ways for you to engage meaningfully. That said, just like learning to play piano or building physical fitness, transformation happens most powerfully through consistent practice and presence. This is especially true for attachment work, since we're literally rewiring patterns that were created through repeated relational experiences.

Simply put, the power of corrective emotional experiences happens when you show up—for yourself, for your CARE Group partners, and for the community that becomes your secure base. You can absolutely transform with unpredictable schedules, but the participants who engage most consistently tend to experience the deepest and most lasting shifts.

We approach attachment change across 3 dimensions + using top, middle and bottom up approaches to attachment healing. This is another way of describing Integrative Attachment Work.

General - Universal practices that support everyone moving from insecure to secure: emotional regulation, nervous system healing, self-compassion, and creating corrective experiences.

Specific to attachment patterns - Tailored approaches for secure, anxious, avoidant, and disorganized styles. For example: anxious attachment needs boundary work and self-soothing; avoidant states need vulnerability practice and staying present; disorganized attachment needs safety-building and integration work.

Unique to you - Personalized healing based on your specific upbringing, trauma history, cultural background, and current relationship network through individual coaching and customized practice plans.

We address all three dimensions through our integrative approach:

• Attachment Theory: Understanding your patterns and origins
• Somatic Practices: Body-based regulation and nervous system work
• Emotional Regulation: The foundation that enables all other healing
• Imagery & Visualization: Guided practices and self-regulation aimed at attachment repair
• Neuroscience: Brain-based tools for rewiring responses
• Community Healing: Corrective experiences and co-regulation in real relationships
• Mindfulness & Self-Compassion: Present-moment awareness and inner kindness

You're not just learning about attachment—you're embodying secure relating through multiple pathways simultaneously. This integration creates lasting change where single-modality approaches often fall short.

Your Attachment Related Goal becomes your North Star—a heart-felt intention matching your growth edge in attachment and relationships.

Examples:

• "I want to heal and repair my relationship with my grown-up child"
• "I want to stop overly relying on others for validation in romantic relationships"
• "I want to stay present instead of withdrawing when relationships deepen"
• "I want to create internal security so I stop attracting unavailable partners"
• "I want to have difficult conversations without shutting down or exploding"

How we personalize your journey:

Before the program:

• Integrative Attachment Healing Quiz: Assessment of patterns, needs, and goals
• Personal goal setting: Your objectives guide your journey (1:1 call with psychologists/therapist)
• Learning style preferences: Tailored recommendations for optimal growth

During the program:

• CARE Group matching: Paired based on your assessment
• Individual coaching moments: Personalized guidance during sessions
• Flexible pathways: Choose focus areas most relevant to your patterns
• Custom practice plans: Exercises specific to your needs

After the program:

• Integration call: Individual follow-up session to process your transformation and plan next steps
• Integration workshop: Group session to celebrate progress and deepen insights with your cohort
• Community access: Join the leading community for healing attachment and relationships, after your 12-week experience.

Your goal becomes a thread woven throughout the entire program, transforming general learning into profound personal healing guided by attachment science and expert facilitators.

CARE Groups (Connection, Attachment, Regulation, Empathy) are small partnership groups of 2-3 participants who meet weekly starting in Week 2-3.

This is one of the most appreciated parts of the program AND, it’s still optional to respect your timeframe.

How they work during the 12 weeks:

• Matching: Participants are paired based on time availability, attachment patterns or preferences, and personal goals and interests.
• Structure: 45-60 minute weekly sessions with expert-provided frameworks
• Content: Practice whatever is being taught in that week's curriculum modules (not the 10 Secure Relating Practices - those come later in the ongoing community)
• Format:
• Check-in (15 min): Nervous system/emotional awareness and current state
• Practice focus (45 min): Apply that week's curriculum content together
• Integration (20 min): Plan real-world application
• Closing (10 min): Appreciation and support

Purpose: Transform curriculum learning from intellectual understanding into embodied experience through real-time practice with caring partners. It's where theory becomes lived experience within a secure relational container.

Continuation: CARE Group partnerships typically continue meeting independently after the 12 weeks end, often transitioning into practicing the 10 Secure Relating Practices in the ongoing community phase.

What makes them special:

• Practice secure relating with real people in real-time
• Experience being authentically seen, heard, and accepted
• Learn to both receive and offer secure base support
• Build lasting friendships with people who understand your journey

Many participants say CARE Groups become the most transformative aspect—where theory becomes lived experience.

Our program creates a unique alchemy where horizontal empathy, peer support, and expert guidance converge in live interaction to amplify your inner work in ways that solo learning or individual approaches alone cannot achieve.

The Power of Horizontal Empathy: When someone with anxious attachment witnesses your struggle with validation-seeking, or an avoidant person shares how they practice staying present during vulnerability, something profound shifts. Peer empathy carries lived understanding that creates safety for the authentic expression your attachment system most needs to experience.

Live Cohort vs. Self-Paced Learning:

• Real-time co-regulation: Your nervous system learns safety through actual connection, not concepts
• Attachment pattern mirroring: See your insecure patterns reflected and transformed in real-time relationships
• Immediate corrective experiences: Practice secure relating when it matters most—during activation
• Collective breakthrough moments: One person's insight about their attachment wounds catalyzes discoveries throughout the group

Individual Therapy as Foundation: Your individual therapeutic work provides crucial support for this process—processing trauma, developing emotional regulation skills, and creating the internal safety needed to engage authentically in community. We enhance rather than replace this foundation by providing the relational laboratory where your inner work finds expression.

Expert Guidance Within Peer Connection: Our licensed facilitators create containers where attachment healing happens horizontally—between peers—while providing clinical insight, trauma-informed safety, and frameworks that guide the process without controlling it.

Why Live Community Transforms Attachment Patterns: Attachment wounds were created in relationship and can only truly heal through repeated corrective experiences with real people. While self-paced courses provide information and individual therapy processes insights, live community provides the ongoing relational practice where insecure patterns actually shift toward security through embodied experience.

Your breakthrough becomes part of the collective wisdom guiding others, while their discoveries illuminate new possibilities for your own transformation.

Our program complements rather than replaces individual therapy, offering unique benefits through community-based healing:

How they work:

• Weeks 1-3: Community building and foundation setting
• Week 4 onwards: Matched with 1-2 participants based on patterns, goals, and timezone
• Weekly 60-90 minute sessions: Structured sharing and practice exercises
• Expert facilitation: Our team provides frameworks and guidance
• Ongoing support: Continue meeting after program ends

Key Differences:

Community vs. Individual:

• Attachment wounds heal (most) effectively in relationship
• Peer witnessing creates powerful corrective emotional experiences
• Learn from others navigating similar challenges
• Build support networks extending beyond therapeutic hours

Educational vs. Therapeutic:

• Skills-based learning with immediate application
• Attachment-specific focus rather than general therapy
• Systematic progression through healing stages
• Group wisdom beyond single professional perspective

Prevention vs. Crisis:

• Proactive growth before major relationship crises
• Relationship enhancement, not just repair
• Life skills you'll use in all relationships forever

When Both Work Best Together: Individual therapy for trauma processing, mental health conditions, and crisis support. Our program for relational skills and community support. We work with your therapist, not against them.

Attachment work often becomes the river where all previous inner work converge. After years of exploring different healing paths—whether you've processed trauma, learned mindfulness, explored your inner landscape, or rewired thought patterns—many discover that attachment is the underlying current flowing beneath all their other work. It's where your somatic awareness meets your relational patterns, where your spiritual insights encounter your daily relationships, where your individual healing finds expression in connection with others.

Our team brings both the lived experience expertise + professional training across these modalities—from trauma therapy and somatic work to spiritual practices and recovery approaches—so we understand how to honor and integrate your previous healing experiences within the attachment framework.

Your experience becomes wisdom within our community:

Trauma work (EMDR, SE, bodywork): Your embodied nervous system awareness enhances co-regulation practices and somatic attunement.

Traditional therapy (psychodynamic, CBT, DBT): Your psychological insight deepens mentalizing and emotional regulation work.

Spiritual practices (meditation, breathwork, energy work): You contribute presence and consciousness around the transpersonal aspects of relational healing.

Parts work (IFS, Gestalt): Your understanding of internal complexity enriches how we work with different attachment states.

Plant medicines/psychedelics: You bring expanded state awareness and integration understanding—great resources for processing attachment breakthroughs.

Recovery/12-step programs: You understand peer support power and transformation's ongoing nature.

The healing and repair happens in our collective wisdom. Your healing journey becomes part of the group intelligence guiding everyone's growth. When someone shares how somatic therapy prepared them to notice CARE Group activation, or how meditation helps them stay present during conflict, the entire community learns. Your journey becomes a gift to others while their perspectives illuminate new dimensions of your own healing.

This isn't starting over—it's integration. Attachment work becomes the framework helping all your previous healing experiences find their relational expression and continue evolving through connection with others.

"Being able to feel safe with other people is probably the single most important aspect of mental health; safe connections are fundamental to meaningful and satisfying lives."

• Bessel van der Kolk

Your willingness to show up—curious, open, maybe a little nervous—is exactly what creates transformation. That's the most important thing you bring, and we're genuinely excited to connect with you wherever you are on this journey.

Here's some science-based hope: your brain remains changeable throughout your entire life. The same neuroplasticity that allowed you to adapt as a child is still available to you now, and research consistently shows that secure attachment can be earned at any age through supportive relationships and consistent practice.

Among other frameworks, we apply the MARS approach (Modern Attachment-Regulation Spectrum), understanding that attachment isn't about fixed categories but about building regulation skills across a spectrum of experiences. Whether you're just learning that your relationship patterns have names, or you've been studying attachment for years, you're working with the same fundamental capacity for growth.

If you're completely new:

• We start with the basics—what attachment even means and why it matters
• You'll get a glossary of key concepts (no jargon without explanation)
• Experienced community members often become the most generous mentors
• You can ask any question without feeling behind

If you've been doing this work:

• You'll find new applications and deeper integration opportunities
• Mentorship naturally emerge as you support others
• Advanced tracks explore complex dynamics you might not have encountered

What works for everyone: Your nervous system learns through experience, not just information. Whether you're reading about attachment styles for the first time or you know the research inside and out, we're all practicing the same thing—how to stay regulated and connected when it matters most.

Multiple learning styles work here: some people need to hear concepts, others learn by watching, many of us need to feel our way through. The buddy system ensures no one navigates alone, and our facilitators have years of experience meeting people exactly where they are.

Absolutely! Community is at the heart of everything we do. Attachment healing happens in relationship, not isolation.

During the 12 weeks:

• The Weekly Sessions with small group interaction and break-out rooms
• Private online community with expert moderation
• Weekly CARE Group partnerships
• Regular community challenges and integration exercises
• Direct access to our facilitator team

After the program:

• Option to join ongoing monthly membership 
• Alumni network for continued connection
• Access to advanced workshops and masterclasses

Our community is an invitation to a secure base—a safe place to return to as you continue practicing secure relating in all areas of your life.