A 12-WEEK LIVE TRANSFORMATION
The Secure Attachment Experience
The Secure Attachment Experience brings together people like you—ready to transform attachment wounds, and move from attachment awareness to embodied secure relating.
A comprehensive and experiential program for individual attachment work, empowered by peer-support and expert guidance by psychologists and therapists.
Do you feel ready for attachment work?
01. You have tried to get to the core of your relational struggles, and still can't find the missing piece
If you are like many who find their way to us, you have already tried different therapeutic modalities, inner work, process work, and various ways of self-regulation in the somatic field.
While these practices hopefully have supported you, attachment patterns operate beneath conscious awareness and require specialized attention. Many approaches address symptoms rather than underlying attachment organization. Without direct focus, attachment wounds continue driving behavior in the background.
02. You know it's related to attachment but can't apply it to daily life and relationships
Emotional insights and rewired somatic integration require repetition and reinforcement to become permanent. Initial breakthroughs must be followed by consistent experiences that contradict old patterns. Momentary conscious insights don't automatically alter unconscious emotional learning systems.
03. Insight is not enough
Why It Fails: Cognitive insights without emotional experiences don't create lasting neural change.
The Problem: The attachment system operates primarily through implicit memory and emotional circuitry. Knowledge acquisition activates different brain regions than those governing attachment behavior. Intellectual understanding can actually create the illusion of change while patterns persist.
Why is secure attachment the most powerful part of our relational life?
Attachment Awareness
The ability to recognize and transform insecure patterns.
Attachment awareness gives you the missing piece of the relational puzzle—understanding how your patterns show up in yourself and others. This requires sustained practice, but transforms every area of your life: romantic relationships, sexuality, friendship, parenting, and spirituality.
Emotional Regulation
Other-Regulation
In our early years, we needed caregivers to help us regulate our emotions and nervous system during distress and overwhelm.
Co-Regulation
Through repeated experiences of comfort with caring others, we learn to regulate together. This capacity for co-regulation is fundamentally human.
Self-Regulation
When we've had enough secure co-regulation experiences, we internalize this support and develop the capacity to be our own secure base. From this regulated state, we can respond rather than react to life's challenges.
Secure Relating
Living from an inner state of secure relating - a learnable state of mind - will increasingly unlock your capacity for real intimacy, authenticity, and interdependence.
Through practicing secure relating skills, you develop the ability to hold your own emotional center while staying connected - caring for both your needs and others' needs through co-regulation rather than trying to manage relationships alone. You feel confident navigating the inevitable ruptures and repairs that deepen authentic connection with the people you care about.
Attachment repair is a deeply relational process, not a solo journey.
Attachment Healing + Community = Secure Relating.”
Dear friend,
You are so welcome to explore attachment healing and creating meaningful relationships with us! If you made it here, it means that you care deeply about yourself and the people in your life.
If I could distill the last 25 years of experience with personal healing and professional training, I would put it like this:
1. We cannot avoid the deep impact attachment patterns have in our lives AND,
2. We are not supposed to do this work alone.
There are two foundational we want to bring into balance when it comes to inner work, especially around attachment work.
Those two perspectives could be summarized as "the Science of Secure Relating and the Wisdom of Groups".
Attachment: The Science of Attachment Psychology & Secure Relating
This stems from committed clinicians and researchers in the field of child and adult development. As clinical psychologists, therapists, and researchers with extensive training and knowledge from the last 80 years of attachment-related therapeutic interventions, we believe this scientific foundation brings balance to our endeavor as we incorporate and build our programs based on this body of deep relationship knowledge.
Community: The Wisdom of Lived Experience
This comes from the "lived experience expertise" of having taken the attachment healing journey ourselves and sharing it with each other. This is especially true when it comes to the experiences of attunement, witnessing, understanding, and ultimately... love. In our programs and community memberships we are constantly harnessing and sharing attachment insights and healing within our community. In this way we stay connected to what actually works.
It is our intention to bring you the state of the art when it comes to all the tools and practices that support your attachment healing journey.
Kindly,
MARTIN JONSSON
CLINICAL PSYCHOLOGIST
FOUNDER, THE SECURE BASE LAB
"”Having the opportunity to share difficult things in a group and be lovingly received was very meaningful to me, as it acts as an antidote to isolation. Also, witnessing the vulnerability and courage of others gave me the self-acceptance and awareness I needed to feel better.""
- Seema
"Coming from an avoidant attachment, I can now see how I've distanced myself and how I've used drugs to compensate for unexpressed needs and emotions. Thanks to the course I've found a place in myself where I feel safe and calm without having to run away."
- Mia
"I can really recommend this experience to anyone who wants to increase their awareness of themselves, their relationships and heal relational wounds”
- Kat
Henk on attachment healing and sharing
"The 12-week experince was a much needed deep dive in my relational blueprint. Apart from the solid content, for me all the sharing practices revealed and rewired my inner landscapes. I think, feel, behave and relate differently now and it’s life changing.."
HENK PETTER
PSYCHOLOGIST
Jo shares around attachment awareness and deep meaning:
"The Secure Attachment Experience helped shine a light on the role my early developmental years have played in the formation of inner and outer relational patterns. The training has been a launchpad for me to reconnect with what brings my life deep meaning, and I am honored to be and feel a part of the generous Secure Base Lab community."
JO HOPKINS
CHEF & ENTREPRENEUR
INTRODUCING
The Secure Attachment Experience
The program is a live and experiential online experience. and runs over 12 weeks between Oct 15th—Jan 15th, every Wednesday at 5.30-7.30 PM (CET) and Sunday at 10.30-12 AM (CET). This gives you time to integrate the state-of-the-art exercises and applied science that the program rests on. The live format enables you to interact in real-time with our psychologists and therapists, and most of all, with other fellow travelers on the journey.
The sessions include a powerful blend of grounding practices, attachment psychology, sharing, somatic integration, and Q&A’s. In between the sessions, you’ll be provided with exercises and reflections carefully chosen to deepen your practice. All sessions are recorded and you are welcome to join from anywhere in the world.
Attachment work is the most profound and integrative way to heal and create healthy relationships. The missing key in psychological healing is often the process of moving from an insecure to a secure state of being. The 12-week program will equip you with the tools and practices to empower you on the journey toward secure attachment.
Most of all, you will be learning and healing experientially, while doing the work together with others, committed to relational healing.
How the 12-week Experience Works:
01. Weekly LIVE Sessions
The heart of this journey—where the wisdom and science of attachment theory becomes lived experience.
We meet for two weekly experiential live sessions on Zoom with attachment-based facilitation that promotes connection, emotional awareness and somatic presence to create "corrective emotional experiences"—the heart of your transformation.
Share challenges, receive support, practice grounding, and embody the latest attachment psychology in real-time connection.
Weekly schedule:
🔴 Wednesdays 7:00 PM CET
Attachment Psychology + experiential learning
Learn the science, then see it come alive through real-time transformation
Expert teaching on attachment concepts + live interaction with our psychologists and therapists, and your fellow cohort members who bring real challenges. Witness breakthrough moments and recognize your own patterns in others' stories.
🟡 Sundays 10:00 AM CET
Community Connection + deep sharing and support
Deep sharing, mutual support, and self-regulation
Intimate sharing circles for processing your week and practicing somatic grounding together. Experience being truly seen and held by your attachment healing family.
What makes these transformational:
- Real-time emotional experiences that rewire old patterns
- Community witnessing that heals isolation and shame
- Somatic practices that help you feel security in your nervous system
You're not just learning about secure relating—you're experiencing it live.
02. Personal Practice
Secure relating can be considered both a skill to practice and an innate capacity that thrives and grows when we feel safe. To heal attachment wounds and trauma, we need to approach our own unique situation in an integrative way.
Every Monday, you'll receive the weekly workbook with curated resources designed for your learning style: audio, visual, text, and journaling.
Here's a taste:
📖 Workbooks
Each week you can access the workbook with the attachment related themes, that walk you through structured attachment healing exercises. Each workbook focuses on one core area—like attachment awareness or self-regulation—with step-by-step practices you can do at your own pace.
✍️ Journaling
Daily prompts designed to deepen your attachment awareness and track your growth. Questions like "When did I feel most secure today?" help you recognize patterns and celebrate progress in real-time.
🧘 Self-Regulation Practice
A library of guided audio sessions and micro-tools to help you stay grounded throughout your day. From 10-minute morning attunements to quick "STOP" techniques when you're triggered—your nervous system toolkit for any situation.
📚 Self-Study & Resources
Curated content from leading attachment experts, research summaries, and skill-building modules you can explore when you want to go deeper. Everything organized and bite-sized so you can learn without overwhelm.
03. CARE-groups
Connection
Attachment
Regulation
Empathy
You will be given the opportunity to join a small, intimate peer partnership that becomes your secure attachment practice family—where healing theory transforms into lived experience.
What Are CARE Groups?
Imagine having 2-3 people who truly see you, witness your growth, and practice secure relating skills alongside you week after week. Not therapy. Not advice-giving. Something deeper: mutual attachment healing.
Your CARE Group becomes your:
- Connection lab where you practice being genuinely seen and known
- Attachment practice space where you experience corrective emotional experiences in real-time
- Regulation support where you learn to co-regulate and borrow calm from others
- Empathy practice where you develop the capacity to understand and attune to others' inner worlds
04. Individual Sessions
What is your deepest intention for joining?
Two exclusive 50-minute one-on-one sessions with our licensed attachment specialists provide personalized expert guidance to explore your unique relational patterns, craft your specific attachment healing goals, and integrate your transformation with a customized roadmap for lasting change.
This is to ensure intimate, focused attention for each member's individual journey.
Heal your attachment wounds.
Heal your relationships
”I am really floored by how much this program did for me, in terms of finding my center and addressing some of the core issues that kept me in a state of anxiety in relationship. And just learning how to live, you know, how to live together while learning to live with myself, has just been spectacular. I don't think I really understood how much of an impact 12 weeks of online work could have on my day-to-day life.”
-Jorn Vetter, Wilderness Guide & Shamanic Practitioner
IT'S TIME TO HEAL. TOGETHER.
MODULE 1
The Journey to Secure
Embark on the journey toward secure attachment through deep sharing and support, somatic grounding meditations, and live coaching anchored in vulnerability and compassion. We explore the existential value of living from secure inner dynamics, and create rituals of safe space while forming our supportive community.
MODULE 2
The Roots of Attachment
Dive into the hidden blueprint of your relational life—the Internal Working Models formed in childhood that still shape your expectations of yourself and others. Uncover how these core beliefs influence every relationship and learn gentle tools for transformation. We explore the emotions that arise when touching these tender places of met and unmet attachment needs.
MODULE 3
Attachment Work - how to change our deepest patterns
Discover that healing attachment wounds as adults is both challenging and absolutely possible. We the essential mindset and tools needed for transformation, learning to become secure figures for others while working on three key relationship areas: family of origin, ourselves, and our wider connections.
MODULE 4
Attachment Awareness
Learn to catch those moments when your attachment system goes online—when old needs for validation and comfort get triggered in close relationships. Develop the foundational skill of recognizing fight, flight, or freeze responses before they take over. We explore how to pause and respond rather than react, breaking free from "insecure dance" patterns.
MODULE 5
Self-regulation
Explore how childhood coping strategies evolved into your current emotional patterns and discover the 5 steps of emotion regulation. Develop strategies to overcome emotional avoidance and practice attachment-based somatic approaches. We explore emotional core regulation as the key component connecting all areas of self-regulation.
MODULE 6
Being the Secure Base
Learn to soften reactivity and move away from blaming ourselves or others, by practicing secure behaviors in close relationships. Discover the 3 pillars of being a Secure Base and develop skills for rupture-repair cycles. We explore how to integrate emotional self-regulation with cognitive work and physical relaxation for lasting relational security.
MODULE 7
Deep Self-Awareness & The Core State
Immerse yourself deeply in your personal attachment patterns through an "inside-out" exploration of childhood needs and relational styles. Safely process difficult emotions like grief, anger, and shame that emerge from past experiences. We explore how to access your Core State—allowing your authentic, coherent Self to emerge.
MODULE 8
Interpersonal Awareness
Deepen your understanding of how you affect others and they affect you through the lens of attachment security. Develop the ability to reflect on internal mental states—both your own and others'—across different phases of connection and conflict. We explore reflective functioning and build "mindful-of-needs" communication skills.
MODULE 9
Building Secure Relationships
Learn to build deeper intimacy and autonomy by authentically expressing your needs and boundaries in relationships. Discover how vulnerable sharing opens communication pathways and creates honest connections. We explore how to find clear "yes" or "no" responses and practice co-regulation from a secure place.
MODULE 10
Attachment & Life
Explore how your attachment patterns influence intimate relationships, parenting, friendships, and spiritual connections. Choose personal areas of interest to dive deeper into and learn to integrate security across all relationships. We explore how to expand secure relating into every area of life with hope and confidence.
MODULE 11 & 12
Integrating and looking forward
Reflect and review your attachment journey, harvesting learnings and recognizing progress toward inner security. Celebrate new acts of trust while holding space to grieve acknowledged losses. We explore deeper questions around attachment change and solidify your steps toward secure attachment.
By the end of the program, you'll be able to:
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This program is for you if...
You're ready to put in the work
You're ready to XYZ
You're willing to trust the process
This program is not for you if...
You don't have X hours per week to commit
You're not sure if XYZ
You're not willing to do the work
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“Attachment needs lies at the heart of our emotional responses to connection and separation”
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Our Story.
The Secure Base Lab is a growing community and "attachment ecosystem" centered around attachment work and relationship healing. Our community welcomes individuals from all corners of the world and walks of life to embark on the journey toward secure attachment, fostering genuine and enriching connections for overall well-being. We value the profound wisdom and scientific insights derived from deep relationships, understanding that the most impactful wisdom arises from those who have undergone the journey themselves or supported others in this transformative process. Our aim is to support each other in the healing process, guiding us through the complexities of a meaning crisis.
To achieve this, we've curated the experiences of thousands of individuals, like you and me, who have engaged in this work. This collective knowledge is informed by integrative and passionate professionals, including psychologists, therapists, coaches, and a diverse range of experts dedicated to healing relationships, particularly attachment relationships. Welcome to The Secure Base Lab!
Ready to make a change?
What you can expect from the 12-week experience:
Attachment
- Learn the fundamentals of secure attachment to empower yourself
- Understand and gain clarity about your own attachment patterns
- Share and express your authentic self with others
- Express needs instead of acting out
- Learn the tools and skills to self-regulate complex and difficult feelings
- Trust that vulnerability leads to strength
- Learn the “attachment language” to put words on difficult inner states, helping you to solve conflicts better
- Become the secure base that embraces and celebrates others in their authentic self
- Learn the wisdom and science of attachment psychology for deeper connection and authentic relating
- Attune to your deepest needs and expressions of autonomy and interconnectedness in yourself and others
- Find new creativity and vitality in love and work
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HOW DOES ATTACHMENT PATTERNS CHANGE?
Can attachment patterns really change in 3 months?
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